My Life Dating A Transexual.

Eevee~Chan: 323) I'm tired. Every trans blog out there is run almost solely by trans men. Every trans meme focus on trans men (I can...

benjibot:

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benjibot:

Let me make something very clear.  I never once said that with that more recognized aspect in reality, there was no harassment, and I’m sorry if you took it that way.  However, there are more resources readily available for MTF persons in the every day world, than there are for FTMs.  And no, there are not more FTMs than MTFs, the statistic is roughly 50/50, in fact.  But that doesn’t really matter. 

Secondly, do not ever hint at or out right say that harassment does not exist in the FTM world.  I do not care if the statistic is 9 MTF assaults to every 1 FTM assault, each and every crime against a trans person FAAB or MAAB is an assault against a human being and the transgender community.  When FTMs hear of MTF assaults, our hearts bleed and weep for that woman, and the same for vise versa.  I am so ridiculously pissed off that our world is so narrow minded in MAAB people expressing femininity, but things are beginning to change.  Slowly, mind you, but it is changing.

Creating change in the real world is a difficult, terrifying process.  But the main point in the confession was the tumblr FTM vs MTF community.  If you want a MTF blog — make one.  That is not difficult, and there are so many amazing blogs that are always willing to signal boost.  You cannot be tired of not seeing something online when you have the ability to create it. However, the same can not be said for the real world, where safety can be jeopardized.

And let me clearify that when I did ‘No one is discriminating’, I meant on the FTM-run blogs.  I suppose that there could be prejudice, but then who wants to follow that blog anyway? :/  The truly good blogs, no matter who they are run by, love and accept all members of the community.

I did not mean to in any way imply that there aren’t FtM’s being brutally abused on a daily basis. Please, no one walk away with that message. I simply was disagreeing, from my experiance, about the real world resources thing. Access to FtM resources seems easier out here. Even if that’s not true, i stopped looking for help in the real world after some of the larger abuses happened in my life, and because of the judgement out there, many trans people only HAVE the internet. What’s important right now, though, is making sure that we don’t walk away thinking that the men are not abused. That is a terrible, TERRIBLE assumption to make. And besides, if we aren’t there for each other, who will be?

The ratio thing was something i took from an online resource that said that more MtF’s pursue treatment. I probably misread that, especially because of the surgical disparity, and so i apologize for that as well.

The ratio of those who decide to medically transition is higher in MTFs than FTMs, but the ratio of trans people alive today is about 50/50.

I’m sorry you’ve been subjected to abuse.  It is never OK, and I hope with all of my heart that you can recover from it fully and bring yourself to continue to look for help and the like.  Honestly, my heart aches rightnow, thinking that someone could give up because of bigotry.  Even if we disagree, I am here for you if you ever need me.  I know that’s not as comforting as having someone in reality, but as long as you want online support, I’m here.

You’re beautiful, remember that…  and I only wish I could protect you.

(Source: mtfconfessions)